To start practising gift-giving, there are several things to be considered.
Be mindful of several things. The first thing to be mindful of is the people you might want to buy for. The worst thing is to wonder what you could possibly buy for someone because you have no idea what they like. Keep the person in mind and not just a name.
Always be aware that you can find a present at any time. The right gift might suddenly appear when browsing in a book shop or strolling in a flea market. Don’t force yourself to look unless there is an urgent need but be aware of the possibilities. You may just see the ideal gift for an anniversary four months away.
Sometimes it is worth giving a present just because you want to and the other will be pleased by it. You don’t need a reason to buy a present other than the fact that you care about the person you’re buying it for and that they will love the surprise.
If you want to start practising gift-giving, there is no better way to practice it than with spontaneous presents to show someone you don’t need a specific day to show they are special.
We do not give gifts simply because it is a birthday or any specific occasion; that is just convention and means nothing. Instead, presents should be given as gestures of affection, respect indicators, and joy celebrations.
Don’t give presents just because it is a birthday, but make the gift itself one that celebrates the person and not just the day.
This ties into purpose but needs a section of its own; this is a special purpose all its own. Gifts help form and deepen connections between people. Stephen Donaldson wrote, “In accepting the gift you honour the giver.” That works both ways because you honour the person to whom you give the gift when you give.
When mutual respect is expressed, connections develop and grow. Giving gifts is an expression of love, respect, and care.
Giving gifts has many benefits for the giver. It is true that giving makes people happy, resulting in mental health benefit that comes from sharing things and giving. Associated with this are benefits like better blood pressure and longer life.
These are real benefits, not just imagined; they will improve your life beyond measure.
Paying it Forward
Perhaps one of the best things about gifts is they can be a way of paying it forward. A gift randomly given may inspire the recipient to pass their good fortune on to someone else by giving them something. The idea is that an act of generosity should escalate into other acts of kindness.
To practice gift-giving, it needs to become a constant thought. Let it become as natural as breathing. Realize it is a way of honouring and going closer.